Linda Asks: Volunteer as “Him”?

I wonder about you bemoaning the time being Kandi takes and recall some of your regulars said they enjoy the getting ready.  Clearly we all love presenting as women and one big difference from men is that women we admire do take time about their appearance.  Maybe not quite as much as we do but it is part of being a woman which generates all those compliments and hugs, you love.  I am sure you could volunteer as ‘him’ and find it as rewarding albeit in different ways but maybe with your lovely personality, still with some hugs even?  Why not give it a go and relate what’s different?

Well Linda, I have certainly thought about that but let’s step back a moment. I began and continue to volunteer for the simple reason that I need something to do when dressed. How else can I do that without going broke or becoming an alcoholic (I’m trying hard not to let that happen right now)? I don’t have the resources for makeovers, professional photo sessions, trips to Vegas, etc. I am not and never have been a home dresser, it simply does not interest me. So given that I do enjoy dressing and my presentation, I need to go out and do something. Volunteering will always be 100% a Kandi thing. Since she sucks up so much time, I need my non-Kandi time for other things.

I bemoan the time it takes to be Kandi because it takes A LOT of time. Wasted time. I’ve talked before about what it takes. Let’s say I wanted to go out today. And you have to accept that I chose to present myself as I do. I have to assemble an outfit and the accessories with that outfit. Polish my nails. A full body shave and a close facial shave (usually takes two times to do that). Stop the bleeding. A shower and getting ready. Makeup. Finalizing everything. I take pictures (or this blog would be really boring). Out the door. A drive no less that 30 minutes to where I am going. Let’s say I decide to then turn around and go home. The commute again. Clean up, including the removal of the nail polish and makeup. A quick shower. Putting everything away. All that would probably run 4-5 hours, without doing anything! How is that possibly not drudgery? Some shortcuts are taken, but it is still time consuming.

So since I volunteer to give Kandi something to do, I really have no interest in doing so myself. Trust me, as myself, there are no hugs. There are few smiles. You can argue the point, but I’ve been me for over 58 years now and I know how I would be and am perceived. Just another guy, nothing special. Regardless of how outgoing I would be, I would still be just a guy. Nothing more, nothing less. No one would be hugging me.

Writing a daily blog requires content. So many times I just sit down and write what is on my mind at the time. There are days that being Kandi thrills me. There are days getting into Kandi mode kills me (but I still want to go out). There are days that are amazing and those that fall flat.

Thanks my friend for always making me think!

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